The Real Truth About Grades
I am an A-Grade student, but I do not know how to convey my words.
“Effective communication is 20% what you know and 80% how you feel about what you know.”
— Jim Rohn
A former excellent student and colleagues of mine were in a debate the other day — when asked a question about how education could be improved? He smiled, and said: “I got nothing to say.” Though how shocking it was, or perhaps in the heat of the moment — he was quiet and passed on this question to the other speaker alongside him. It did kind of took the host by surprise while the stream was going live.
Be it stage fright, or having difficulty in voicing his words. He was unable to speak on the subject matter. This caused him to lose his value, among the other debating participants. When the debate ended, He came over to me and asked, “how do you do it?” — I replied in earnest, “do what?” He asked, “How are you able to frame your words so clearly? that anyone you talk to can voice their words as well.”
He asked an insightful question, as he admitted without shame that even though he is a great student, & an excellent programmer but he isn’t a good speaker. I took my time, standing there in processing my thoughts. I then spoke, “perhaps you haven’t practiced speaking with zest yet.”
After hearing my answer, he laughed with a smile. He asks me “but how do you acquire zest?” I took a raincheck on that question, hoping to answer it another day. We then walked towards the table to attend the dinner with our colleagues.
I don’t remember exactly when I acquired zest, but the first time — I realized it was when I won over, the school principal as a teenager. I define zest as the ability to lean attraction toward one’s self. It is magnetic and can be obtained by anyone. Zest is indeed a supreme quality, and one acquires it through communication. But taking interest is essential to acquire zest.
I believe I have always been adamant to talk to people both young and old. Ever since I was a child, I was always aiming to talk to people. Aiming to listen to the stories, of their life. This drove my inner passions, that formed my zest.
My elders were always fascinating to me. While growing up, I took my time learning from them. It was like being imprinted by the qualities and lessons of their stories onto my personality. I enjoyed the process of understanding their ways thoroughly.
Social communication drives my zest. The enthusiasm allowed me to convey my words. During the debate, he lacked zest. He didn’t have any interest during the debate. Even though he might have had something to add.
He felt unconfident about his words, or the impact they might make on the audience. I had sensed early on, he wasn’t interested in the topic that was being discussed as he previously stated, “That he isn’t as good in public speaking.”
But of course, he wanted to try it. He just gave up in the middle, with an answer “no comments.” Be it anxiety, no knowledge of the topic, or interest — he lacked a potential part of a skill that allows you to lean listeners towards your argument.
Storytelling is also an important part of speaking. Most of the time, you need not prepare for a debate if the subject you are going to talk about is already written by hand. The feel of the audience is important as well. You should observe, visualize your audience. Ask them simple questions, gather feedback about what they think, and how they think it?
All this is done on the spot. If it is an open debate, well then you have to open-minded about it. As people will differ in opinion, perspectives, views, and ideas. You should be able to accept, understand, and convey at will. This can seem hard, but in simple words — it’s a game of drawing straws. The gist of the matter is no one wins or loses unless the stakes are at place. Two things, that come with time, when practicing social communication are,
- Experiencing social communication might add pressure, but with the time you learn to take the blows. It comes naturally i.e. the tenacity to speak about what you are interested in. You can show genuine enthusiasm if you persist long enough by speaking about matters — you want to become a professional in.
- Failure is another measure that you can take to acquire zest. As it teaches you the ways that connect you with people and also the ways that sever that connection. Furthermore helps you in cultivating an action strategy when dealing with people.
The game of acquiring zest, is like a chase. You run your best to achieve it. There is no loss when your goal is to acquire zest. It lies in the process of pursuit. If you’re speaking, then the process of speaking i.e. how you feel about the topic will increase your zest as you move forwards.
Zest helps you a lot in life, in times of strife and in times of hardships. It keeps you on your toes, aching to fight the next fight and win the next game. Life is a game of “Tag, you’re it.” When you’re “it” — well, you have to chase something to transfer that spirit. Zest comes naturally when you aim to communicate yourself, through your words, your skills, and yourself as well.
Every individual has the ability, to acquire zest. It begins with taking the first step, regardless of what comes may to rise up again to beat the challenge. Remember, it’s not what you know but how you feel about it that matters. Embrace your feelings about a subject, treasure and value them. Use it, It will make you wise beyond your wildest imaginations.