Emotional Men are not Pussies
Emotional men have been experiencing depression and rejection from society’s non-acceptance towards their sentiments.
You know, why? Because we tend to behave obliviously for those whom we should be caring for. We as humans have become, senile in these modern times. We aren’t old, we’re just too self-centred. Unawareness that has led us behaving in a manner that causes a lot of chaos, in the lives of those around us.
When did things go wrong? or where? According to the American Psychiatric Association, depression afflicts an approximated one in 15 adults (6.7%) in any given year of their lifetime. And one in six people (16.6%) will experience depression at some time in their life.
Depression has a probability to occur at any time, but on average, it first appears during the late teens to mid-20s. Women are more likely than men to experience depression. But men seem to experience, a severe backlash from society as a whole when suffering from the symptoms of depression.
Let’s be honest — slurs like “be a man”, “don’t be a pussy”, “don’t be a bitch, wimp, sissy, moron, coward, cunt” are prevalent experiences of men who seem to receive such discontent remarks. These events trigger a lot of self afflicting harmful emotions. Which usually turn into headaches and migraines. Things that men have to hide as it is the barebone shame imparted unto them from society.
“One thing you can’t hide — is when you’re crippled inside.”
― John Lennon
Though there is a huge percentage of society that tends to behave in an oblivious manner. When considering the impact of their absent-mindedness. Men suffer a lot, from depression which they have to hide and usually they can’t talk about it.
Because most people around them subjugate them to stereotypes, which further contributes to their declining mental health. From someone who experiences migraines, I have been in the centre of such events. That does tend to send a wave of disconcern my way.
When people around you usually seem to think that men are strong individuals. They usually pin this stigma, that these emotional men are weak-minded. Boys who grow up subjugated to this stereotype always find it hard to vent their emotions.
It becomes this facade of mental toughness that society expects from most men. One that they have to keep in order to fit into the functioning part of society. Otherwise, they are disregarded as outcasts or freaks.
It becomes harder for them to relate to other people, or to seek help from them. When a society becomes so rotten to the core, where they have double standards.
Aren’t we all human beings, with our feelings?
If a woman breaks down in the park, she will be given support. But when a man cries, nobody will bat an eye. There might be people who would cuss the man, and behave irrationally towards him. There are numerous examples, that could be considered to justify this aspect.
This is true, in any part of the world you go to. There will always be people who will resent you. I have experienced a fair share myself. And it hurts that it can happen to you even when you’re praying in a holy place. Imagine experiencing that in a place of worship, and Yes, I have been there.
Can we please change this stereotype?
I have seen the worst of humanity and frankly speaking there is a lot of it. In these times of the pandemic, we were perhaps given a chance to self reflect on such behaviours that society tends to impart on everyone. We could have taken this time, to change ourselves and perhaps give it to the people who have been oppressed for so long.
I believe this could have been a great change. But still, we are idling by and not giving a shit like it doesn’t matter. What kind of a generation are you leaving behind? Have you ever thought about this before?
So much pain, misery, and grief left in this world. All that regret, of not being able to take care of the ones in your life. Will it be your legacy?
Or will you aim to change that destiny and believe in the people around you? You should. It’s hard to lose something you believe in. It is the most auspicious way of taking care of one another.
“Too many men I know experience shame because society places pressure on them to withhold emotion: emotion and sensitivity is weak. I have found the opposite is true: emotion and sensitivity is what makes us strong.”
― Natalie Brenner
We need to try to be better than what we came to receive in this life. It’s never too late, to take care of those in your life who might have been hurt. They need your support — you should try your best to connect with them at this time. It’s hard as is, for these stereotyped men.
Do you know how many of your male friends have experienced this? Have you ever tried truly to ask them? They might deny, because of the judgment they receive whenever they try to talk about their emotional state. But this is happening, and it’s there staring them right at their face at a moment’s glance.
We need to be aware of and spread awareness of this issue. I have known many men who fell into despair, committed suicide because of it. This needs to stop. We have to be aware of each other’s emotional state.
It is the thought that keeps the spark of life, alive.
Try every day in reconciling with people. You never know whose day you might make just by being nice or dropping a greeting. Its fairly easy, to connect and to share feelings of care with another.
If you fail to plan your actions, you will plan to fail. Always be on the lookout for those who might need that one embrace that changes their lives forever.
Because at the end of the day, that is what truly matters — our lives and the actions that flourish them as a whole. Thus, try taking care of one another in these hard times, or any such time which you may encounter henceforth.
Live well, be aware, and stay safe.